Annoying Coworkers - Working With Difficult People

Annoying Coworkers - Working With Difficult PeopleAnnoying Coworkers - Working With Difficult PeopleWhenever you bring togetherbeibei a bunch of people, there is a jumble of different personalities. Some of them exist together harmoniously, but there are always a few outliers. The workplaceis no exception. In addition to people with whom you can easilyget along,you will also find some annoying coworkers. What sets the workplace apart from many other settings is that everyone- even those who are the most difficult- must cooperate in order to be productive. Here are five types of annoying coworkers and advice that will help you get along with each one. The Chatterbox Lets start with your most affable coworker. The chatterbox usually means well. She is friendly and wants to share all her thoughts (every last one of them) with you. She isnt trying cause harm to anyone...her incessant talking is just keeping you from concentrating on your work. Here are some things you can do to quiet down your talkative coworker so you can get your job done. Dont risk insulting your colleague by telling her to be quiet. Instead, put the blame on yourself. Tell her you to have trouble concentrating while you are listening to her very engaging stories but you would love to hear them at some other time. Just not while youre working. Then, if you truly enjoy her company, have lunch with her once a week (less often if thats too much for you). The Gossip The gossip seems to know everything about everyone and he wants to share it. Should you listen to what your busybody colleague has to say? It depends on the nature of the information. If you have the opportunity to hear the useful news that may not make it through mora formal information channels in your workplace, then you should pay attention, but do it with a cynical ear. The problem with gossip is that it carries both elements of truth and fiction. However, if the news being shared is of a very personal nature, for example, h e starts telling you about another coworkers marital problems, change the subject or say you dont feel right discussing someone behind his back. Avoid conveying any information he shares with you with others because then you run the risk of becoming a gossip too. The Complainer Theres always one person in a group who can never find anything about which to be happy. If shes not complaining about her health or her family, then her job, the company, or your boss are the subjects of her disapproval. Of course, some of her complaints may be legitimate, but the incessant whining is getting on your nerves. Shes in danger of bringing everyone down with her negativity. Change the subject whenever the bellyaching begins or, if the complaints are centered around work, ask her if shed like your help brainstorming some solutions. Who knows? Together you may be able to solve some problems. The Delegator In almost every workplace youll find someone who wants to share his work with his co lleagues. These arent people who have a legitimate reason to delegate work to others, for example, managers or team leaders. They are those who either cant do all the work their boss has assigned to them or dont want to do it. If teamwork is encouraged in your office and you have time to help your colleague, you should. However, if managers are the only ones who have the authority to delegate or you already have your hands full with your own work, then you have to turn down the request. Tell your coworker you dont have the time to take on any moretasks. The Credit Grabber The credit grabber does not acknowledge when others have collaborated with her on a project and contributed to its success. She accepts all the praise without mentioning that she didnt do all the work. The first time this happens, you can consider it a mistake. Maybe she just forgot to say she had help. Let your colleague know you are offended and ask her to let others know about your participation. If she refu ses to do that, or if this happens again, make sure you let others know about the role you played in getting the project done. Then, unless your boss forces you to work with this person, refuse to help out again.

How to Give Two Weeks Notice When Quitting

How to Give Two Weeks Notice When QuittingHow to Give Two Weeks Notice When QuittingWhen an employee resigns from his job, hes asked to give two weeks notice to notify his employer, Two weeks is the traditional, standard amount of time that an employee agrees to continue working for his current employer before he departs. The employee announces that his resignation goes into effect at the end of the second week after he gives notice. At the end of the two-week work period, the employee is no longer an employee of the firm. When Two Weeks Notice Is Not Wanted by an Employer Two weeks notice is often not required nor appreciated by the employer. Human Resources may have standard practices they follow to eliminate the possibility of charges of discrimination, no matter how liked or valued the resigning employee was to the organization. HR is also concerned with the effect of the resignation on the morale and positive outlook of the employees who remain. Resigning employees might bad -mouth the company on their way out the door, so HR sees no good reason to risk allowing a disenfranchised employee to stay to chat at work. Possible Employer Standard Practices An employer could handle a resigning employee in these ways The employee is not allowed to return to her work area or to say goodbye to coworkers.The employer arranges a time for the employee to meet so that she can remove personal items from the workplace.The employer walks the employee out of the workplace immediately. If your job is sensitive and you have access to company information, confidential information, and confidential computer systems data, your company may not want you to work during your brde two weeks. You may instead find youre escorted out of the workplace when you resign. Some companies have adopted immediate termination as their standard practice upon employee resignation. In these cases, most employers pay for the two weeks, even though they were not worked by the employee,because th e employee offered to work and was turned down. Some standard HR practices dont allow the resigning employee to work even if he was available. The Employees Perspective on Giving Two Weeks Notice From the employees perspective, for companies that dont automatically pay for the two weeks, employees may be better off working to earn the paycheck. They may want the opportunity to clean up all loose ends and say goodbye to their coworkers. On the flip side, however, the longer you stay in the company following your resignation, the more possibilities exist for something to go wrong for which you would experience consequences. In your last two weeks, you may make a decision you think is perfectly innocent, but your employers may perceive it as a mistake, and then later hold you responsible. Depending on your job, two weeks notice might not be in your best interests. Some career experts recommend that you make your last day of work the day you resign. Managers Notice ofResignation Its recommended that managers give two to four weeks notice, but the amount of recommended notice time is also determined by the position. At the same time, if a new employer is waiting in the wings, the new employer may expect a new employee will start in two weeks, unless a different time frame is negotiated. If your employee has an employment contract that states two weeks notice or another variation on notice time is required, the employee and employer must abide by the terms of the contract.

DiscoverE Educator Awards Highlight Efforts of Three STEM Teachers

DiscoverE Educator Awards Highlight Efforts of Three STEM Teaczu sichs DiscoverE Educator Awards Highlight Efforts of Three STEM Teachers DiscoverE Educator Awards Highlight Efforts of Three STEM Teachers (Left to right) Daisy Rayela, Leon R. Grant III and Jill Johnson were recognized as the winners of the 2015 DiscoverE Educator Awards at a ceremony on June 8 at the National Academy of Sciences Building in Washington, D.C.Earlier this month, DiscoverE honored three pre-college teachers for their efforts to introduce young people to engineering. The three teachers Leon R. Grant III, Jill Johnson and Daisy Rayela were named as the winners of the 2015 DiscoverE Educator Awards. Eight other teachers were named runners-up in this years program.Eighty-five teachers were nominated this year for the DiscoverE Educator Awards program, which provides engineers with the opportunity to show their appreciation for the pre-college STEM educators who are encouraging young people to discover engi neering. The three winners were recognized June 8 at a ceremony at the National Academy of Sciences Building in Washington, D.C. The winners each received a $2,000 cash prize and a gift pack of classroom supplies from 3M, while the eight runners-up each received $500 each and 3M gift packs. One of this years three top winners, Leon Grant, is the founder of the Bridge-Gap STEM Mentoring Program and Society for Pre-Engineering at Marietta High School in Marietta, Ga. Grant has spearheaded a three-year project in which his students work with engineering students and professionals to research, engineer, design, and construct sustainable buildings for communities in Haiti, using repurposed shipping containers. Leon has inspired many of his students to continue on to study engineering in college and become successful engineering professionals. DiscoverE Educator Award-winner Jill Johnson started her career as an electrical engineer working as a research and development controls specialis t. Feeling that women and minorities were underrepresented in the engineering field, however, she changed her career path. As a teacher at Johnson Aerospace and Engineering High School in St. Paul, Minn., Johnson provides new STEM learning opportunities to underserved students in the Minneapolis-St. Paul area. She also established a STEM camp for middle school students and teaches a course, Bridging Engineering and Education, which trains educators how to introduce K-12 students to engineering.This years third winner, Daisy Rayela, believes that learning shouldnt be limited to the classroom. Before becoming the current STEM coordinator at Thomas Johnson Middle School in Lanham, Md., Rayela taught at Jose Panganiban National High School, where her science club was active in environmentally focused outreach programs within the community. Rayela started the Gateway to Technology program at her school to offer students problem solving, hands-on STEM based activities related to design an d modeling, automation and robotics, energy and the environment. The eight runners-up in this years program are Ramatu Gariba of the South Municipal Education Directorate in Accra, Ghana Rebekah Hammack of Stillwater Middle School in Stillwater, Okla. Cary James of Bangor High School in Bangor, Maine Richard Johnson of Rostrata Primary School in Whilletton, Australia Katie Marchionna of Highland High School in Palmdale, Calif. Aaron Tostado of Da Vinci Science High School in Hawthorne, Calif. Jaime Trevino of the Foy H. Moody High School Innovation Academy from Corpus Christi, Texas and Kate Youmans of the American International School of Utah in Salt Lake City.The DiscoverE Educator Awards are sponsored by 3M, Bechtel, ExxonMobil Corp., Lockheed Martin Corp., Shell Oil Corp., and the United Engineering Foundation (UEF). For more information on the awards program and this years winners and runners-up, visit http//bit.ly/1G7DDNI.

Transform the (Dreaded) Annual Performance Review

Transform the (Dreaded) Annual Performance ReviewTransform the (Dreaded) Annual Performance ReviewTransform the (Dreaded) Annual Performance Review C. Fox, author of PEOPLE TOOLS FOR geschftliches miteinander50 Strategies for Building Success, Creating Wealth, and Finding Happiness (SelectBooks, Inc., 2014)In the 1929 movie, The Cocoanuts, the hotel employees of a mustachioed Groucho Marx chased him from the lobby and up a flight of stairs.We want our money, they yelled.What do you mean?We want our money, they repeated.I dont understand. You want whose money? Groucho shouted back.You havent paid us. We want to be paidOh, says Groucho, pointing directly at them. You want my money, with emphasis on the my.I digress, which is leid uncommon for me when I am faced with a situation I find uncomfortable. Lets remove dreaded from the annual performance review and look at this a bit differently.Reviving the Dreaded Annual Performance ReviewFirst, why should we think of the employee performanc e review as being about the employee? Dont both the employee and employer want the best possible performance?If you are an employee and dont perform as well as you can, perhaps you lack the proper tools or training. Maybe you dont feel appreciated and, as a result, are not as involved as you might be.I regard tools, employee training, and the expression of appreciation as the responsibility of the employer, not the employee.Second, why shouldnt I want to encourage the best performance possible, and pay fairly for that performance? If all of my 45 or so employees felt unfairly treated and failed to show up Monday morning, my business would instantly disappear.Each of them is excellent at what they do and could easily find a position somewhere else. But how could I reconstruct, entirely by myself, the outstanding team which we have built together over the past 45 years?I now regard the (not dreaded) employee performance review as a review of my own performance, not theirs. I think of my employees as co-workers. We work in the same building, write e-mails to outsiders and to each other, talk on the telephone and enjoy lunch in early afternoon.Every one of us is a crew member on the same ship, headed in the same direction. (At Disneyland you would be called a Cast Member, which sounds nice but, to me seems more like acting rather than interacting with customers and each other).Today my ideal procedure on the annual employee review is1) Keep my co-workers up to date on how they are doing during the year. I offer approval to encourage them, though not as often as I should. I suggest course corrections to help them focus on what needs to be changed.When your flight lands in San Francisco its too late to remember that you should have boarded the flight for Chicago. In the old days I would say to an employee after his or her first day on the job, Ive decided to renew your option. You can come back tomorrow. Today I cringe at the thought of how I would feel if my new bo ss of one day said that to me.Two weeks ago I hired Joy to help with the marketing and vorrcken of People Tools. At the end of her first week I asked, Are all of us providing proper information and support so that you can do your best work? If you have properly helped your co-workers during the year there will be no bad surprises for either of you at the annual review.2) When its time for the annual review, I make sure to conduct it within a week or two of the anniversary date. Its not fair to my coworkers to delay information which is important to them and keep them walking on eggshells, waiting for the knife to drop. And I dont want to skulk about the office hiding from someone.3) Ask each person being reviewed to evaluate him or herself, to write down their accomplishments of the past year and goals for the coming year. Not only does this help your employees learn the valuable skill of self-assessment, it also shows how much you respect and appreciate their opinions.4) Ask the re viewees what salary they think they deserve. I use recommendation as a guide. Years ago Gert, who worked with me for almost 25 years, always asked for a ten or fifteen percent raise, which welches far too high. But at least I knew what she was thinking. One year Cathy, my vice president and general manager, asked for a raise which was far too small. I increased her salary by three times the amount she had requested.5) During the review I ask how I, or other managers, can better assist our co-worker to perform better. Replace my seven year old computer, was one answer. I was embarrassed. I had allowed a valued member of my accounting staff to struggle for two years with entirely outdated equipment.6) Consider awarding a member of your team a one-time zugabe if theyvemade an outstanding contribution to the company that saves time and money, increases profits and productivity, or improves the working conditions in the office.This way, the annual review can be just as much about rewardi ng employee performanceas it is about offering constructive suggestions on how to improve. Why shouldnt you want to encourage the best performance possible, and pay fairly for that performance?If all of your employees felt unfairly compensated and failed to show up Monday morning, your business would instantly disappear. Each of them is there because they are good at what they do, and they could always find a position somewhere else.7) If my goal is to retain my team member for another full year, I sometimes pay part of their increased salary as a bonus at their next anniversary date. We all like something extra, and often a $2,000 bonus looms larger than $166.67 a month, before payroll taxes.8) Be prepared at an annual review to be flexible about hours of work. Some people prefer to begin their work day at 600 am and time away from the office for personal matters. One of the biggest perks I enjoy myself, as an entrepreneur and business owner, is that I can set my own hours. I can t ake off Thursday afternoon and come in on Saturday morning if I like.So I refuse to be a prison warden for my staff. They work with me to accomplish a mission, not to lose their freedom to visit a doctor when they need to, or watch their daughters soccer finals.When I improve as a manager, my co-workers improve at their positions. That is why I no longer dread reviewing them, because, in reality, we are helping each other.Lets take the word Dreaded out of the annual performance review.This article is adapted with permission from the publisher, SelectBooks, from PEOPLE TOOLS FOR BUSINESS 50 Strategies for Building Success, Creating Wealth, and Finding Happinessby Alan C. Fox. Copyright 2014.Author BioAlan Fox is the president of ACF Property Management, Inc, and author of The New York Times bestseller PEOPLE TOOLS 54 Strategies for Building Relationships, Creating Joy, and Embracing Prosperity. He has university degrees in accounting, law, education, and professional writing.Fox was employed as a tax supervisor for a national CPA firm, established his own law firm, then founded a commercial real estate company in 1968 that now owns over one billion dollars in real estate. He is the founder, editor, and publisher of Rattle, one of the most respected literary magazines in the United States, and he sits on the board of directors of several non-profit foundations. Visit peopletoolsbook.com.Read MoreShowing Respect When Dealing with Performance IssuesCompensation Why Average Salaries Lag at Small CompaniesSalaries Are Rising for Small Business

Make a Free Resume Secrets That No One Else Knows About

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Keep your career healthy when the economy is sick

Keep your career healthy when the economy is sick Keep your career healthy when the economy is sickPosted October 13, 2011, by Helen Isbister Perhaps the global financial crisis is the catalyst you need to get your career into peak performance. The global financial crisis, the economic downturn, the recession, the depression whatever you want to call it does not necessarily mean doom and gloom for every employee. An economic downturn can actually translate into an advantage for many workers who find ways to recession-proof their careers. So what can you do to stay in control of your career? Think about ways to make yourself indispensable at your existing workplace Become the go-to partie that everyone knows is a strong performer. Make sure that your contribution has an impact on the bottom line and improve your visibility in the company the people who add value will be the ones that survive staff cuts. Offer to take on the challenging tasks. Find out what skills are in demand (in the business and in your industry, or beyond your industry) and enrol in a course now. Keep up to date about your industry and other industries that are doing well Woolworths, for example, is planning to hire 7000 people in 2009. Be aware of the state of your company Rarely does a business go into decline without some warning. Keep your eyes and ears open and be aware of any possible problems that might mean laying off staff. Find companies and industries that are doing well even during the tough times and find out if your skills and experience will fit with them smart companies are finding creative ways to recruit and retain staff during the economic financial crisis. Other ways to keep your career on track Prepare a skills audit and plug any gaps that will make you more employable. Network in good times and bad, networking can be invaluable as many jobs dont even make it to Seek.com and other jobs websites. Be prepared keep your resume up to date and keep refining the language . Your resume should be a work in progress like yourself and your career. What industries are thriving? Even if you are working in an industry that appears to be going down the drain, thinking about your skills tischset from a different perspective might lead to similar but different work in another industry. Your communication/organisation/business/trade skills might apply to a field that has shortages so keep an eye on industries that are still going strong. According to new research by the Clarius Group and Link Recruitment, chefs, hairdressers, builders and health professionals continue to be in demand despite the economic downturn. And the aged-care industry is one that has a big future as the population ages. Tourism, hospitality, construction and community and health services are tipped to be popular training courses this year as many people make themselves work-ready, even if its not in the same industry they were in before the global financial crisis became a bigger househo ld name than Brangelina. CEO of the Australian Association of Graduate Employers, Ben Reeves, says employers know the conditions wont last forever and that they need to cultivate tomorrows managers and skills. So while times are tight, use your time wisely to shore up your employability and come out stronger on the other side. ResourcesMy first resumeCover letter for my first jobCareer Insider StoriesShelley Lask - Body Positive Health & FitnessInterested in becoming a?Human Resources OfficerGeneral ManagerBusiness ManagerAccountantOffice AdministratorPopular Career Searchescareer assessment testguide to ace your next interviewsick leave letter to school teachersample cover letter for career change to human resourcescareer objectives for hospitality CoursesBachelor of Social WorkEnquire Online Enquire OnlineCertificate III in Health AdministrationEnquire Online Enquire OnlineBachelor of Criminal JusticeEnquire Online Enquire OnlineCertificate III in Allied Health AssistanceEnquire O nline Enquire OnlineHelen IsbisterRelated ArticlesBrowse moreCareer changeHow To Write A Career Change ResumeWhen youre changing careers, preparing a resume for your new industry can be tricky. We have some tips on how to approach a career change resume.Online studyKeep Calm And Improve Yourself How Short Courses Can Help You SucceedTrend-spotters have deemed 2015 the year of self-improvement, so whats your master plan? The good news is that with single-unit study you dont actually need one to get started.WORKFORCE TRENDSRedundancy - what Australians wantWith redundancies on the rise due to the global financial crisis, nearly half of Australians say they would take a voluntary redundancy if the price is right.

Modern Resume Template - The 2019 List of Modern Resume Templates

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Research report 5 powerful rituals that will make you resilient

Research report 5 powerful rituals that will make you resilientResearch report 5 powerful rituals that will make you resilientEvery now and then, life punches below the belt. How can you be resilient when times get tough and you feel bad?Tzu siche are all kinds of strategies for feeling happier and showing grit. But most of them are very conscious and deliberate. And the truth is, most of what we do every dayisnt all that conscious and deliberate.Ever since Freud, weve known that a lot of our behavior is unconscious. If thats the case, shouldnt youleverage yourunconsciousmind to get through the tough times?Only makes sense, right?Now I dont know much about myunconscious mind. (I mean, its unconscious,right?) So I called an expert on the subject.Tim Wilson is a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia andauthor ofStrangers to Ourselves Discovering the Adaptive UnconsciousandRedirect Cabfahrting the Stories We Live By.Tim has some, well,mind-blowinginsights about how your brain really works. Youre gonna learn a lot about how that grey matter functions, how to fix it when it cant cope, and youll even find out how to get to know yourself better to avoid future messes, how to stay happy when things suck, and even how to becomea better menschengerecht being in the process. (Now howsthatfor value?)But I do need to make a disclaimer first Im gonna have to shake your confidence in yourself a bit before we fix it. We need to correct some myths - and some of the truths are a little disturbing. Hang with me. Well get you back to the Shire, Frodo.Alright, forget what you think you know about how your mind works.Youre wrong about a lot of stuff. In fact, youre wrong aboutyouYour conscious mind is an overconfident storytellerOkay, tough love time you dont know yourself as well as you think. Who you think you are, your rolleality traits, why you do thingsyour perception of yourself can bewayoff.Think your friends would agree with you on what youre really like? Ac tually, they would agree morawith each otheron your personality than you would agree with any one of them.FromStrangers to OurselvesFirst, the correspondence between peoples ratings of their own personality and other peoples ratings of their personality is notlage very high. It depends somewhat on the trait for example, people tend to agree with others about how extroverted they are, but on most other personality traits the level of agreement is modest (correlations in the range of .40). Thus, Suzies judgment of how agreeable and conscientious she is correlates only modestly with how agreeable and conscientious her friends think she is. Furthermora, other people agree more among themselves about what another person is like than they agree with that persons own ratings.Some people would immediately push back on this,I know what Im really like I can landsee me from the inside Nobody else has that informationYes, you have a lot more info about yourself than a stranger does but your con scious mindis kinda like the internet tons of great information and an awful lot ofinaccurateinformation as well.In some areas youd have more insight into yourself, but in others youd beway off.When you average it all out, the information you have about yourself is about as accurate as astrangersread on you.FromStrangers to OurselvesAveraging across several studies, there seems to be no net advantage to having privileged information about ourselves the amount of accuracy obtained by people about the causes of their responses is nearly identical with the amount of accuracy obtained by strangers.I know pretty shocking, isnt it?Why is it so shocking? Because your conscious mind is basicallyan overconfident storyteller.Your conscious mind doesnt have any direct access to everything going on in your unconscious mind.How do you determine what others are like? You watch and guess and make up a story. Well, your conscious mind does the same thing with your unconscious mind. Except your cons cious mind is very overconfident about its stories.FromStrangers to OurselvesThe analogy I favor is introspection as a personal narrative, whereby people construct stories about their lives, much as a biographer would. We weave what we can observe (our conscious thoughts, feelings, and memories, our own behavior, the reactions of other people to us) into a story that, with luck, captures at least a part what we cannot observe (our nonconscious personality traits, goals, and feelings).Think about it for a second. You lash out at someone. You say they deserved it. Then you have something to eat. And you feel much better. You realize they werent being awful, you were just cranky because you were hungry. We feel emotions and our conscious mind scrambles to figure out why. And sometimes its wrong.You think the voice in your head is in charge, that it makes every decision. But thats true a lot less often than you think. Ever been so wrapped up in your thoughts while driving that you barel y remember the ride home? You didnt crash the car. You made the decisions that allowed you to arrive safely without consciously thinking at all about them. In fact, youre on unconscious autopilot most of the day. But your conscious mind really loves taking leistungspunkt for everything.Some people are gonna get freaked out at this realizationAHHH I cant trust myself Im not in charge Why is my brain like this?Its okay. Your unconscious mind is mucksmuschenstill you. But its not the you that is the voice in your head. To be fair, the voice in your head, your conscious mind, has areally reallytough job. Actually, it has two jobs - and theyre often at odds with one anotherJob 1 Provide as accurate a vision of yourself and the world as possible.Job 2 Keep you happy.You can compare this to giving advice to a friend about their bad behavior. You want to be accurate enough that you can help them course correct but you dont want to make them feel like a terrible person. It can be a tricky b alancing act.Sometimes youneed to hear,Youre right. Everyone else is wrong.Butother times you need to hear,You are being a jackass and shouldget your act together.Seeing yourself with rose-colored glasses - within limits - is agoodthing. Keeps your self-esteem up and depression away. But too rosy and you start saying things like, Ibet Im a naturalat skydiving I dont need lessonsYour conscious mind doesnt have perfect information about your unconscious mind, so it guesses. On top of that it also needs to try and keep you happy. So at times it comes up with very inaccurate stories about you and the world. Stories you often unquestioningly accept as truth. And thats why sometimes yougive its talesmore credence than your underlying feelings and end up in the kind of job you think you should love - but dont. Or you end up involved with the kind of person you think you should love - but dont.So what does all this have to do with resilience? (In fact, you may be feeling a lotlessresili ent now that you realize the voice in your head cant always be trusted.)(To learn the 7-step morning ritual that will keep you happy all day, clickhere.)When life gets hard and youre feeling really bad, knowing how inaccurate your conscious mind can be isactually a big help.1)Its not that bad. Really.Tim and Harvard professor Dan Gilbert have done a lot of research on what they call affective forecasting. Thats a fancy term for predicting how youre going to feel in the future.Turns out, youre terrible at it. Feelingscome from your unconscious mind.But predictions come from that overconfident storyteller. Turns out that all of our storytellers have a tendency to exaggerate.Whats that mean? When times are tough, your storyteller says, WERE GOING TO FEEL badeanstalt FOREVER THE PAIN WILL NEVER ENDDont believe your storyteller. Heres TimWe tend to exaggerate the impact of future fests on our happiness and how lasting that impact will be. We tend to think that if something bad happens to us, that well feel terrible forever, or at least for a very long time. The truth is, good things do make us feel good and bad things make us feel bad, but for not nearly as long as we think. Were very resilient creatures who recover as quick as we can from the pitfalls in life.Next time someone tells you youre overreacting to a bad situation, dont get angry with them. Theyre probably right. Your storyteller has a tendency to be way too creative - and way too confident as well.(To learn how 5 post-it notes can make you happy, confident and successful, clickhere.)Soknowing you havean unreliable narrator in your skull can be agoodthing. The pain isnt as bad as you think But theres still pain. Whats the first line of defense? Actually, its your unconscious mind. Like a superhero, it will come to save the day.How do you send up the Bat Signal to let it know youre in trouble? Heres some more good news you dont have to do anything at all.2) You have a psychological immune ordnungsprinzip Youve felt awful before. Your overconfident storyteller said the pain would never end. But it did. As the maximgoes, Time heals all wounds. Actually, thats not true your psychological immune system heals all wounds.Think about your body. You get the flu. But after a few daysyour immune system gets to work and knocks the hell out of the bug that infected you. Tims research shows that your unconscious mind actually does a similarthing when life throws you a curve ball.It will put things in perspective. It willhelp your conscious mind rationalize, and tell a happier story.Heres TimWhen something bad happens to us, we try tomake ourselves feel better. That happens, often, psychologically, behind the scenes. Just like theres a physical immune system that tries to ward off disease and cure us from physical ills, so there are a number of psychological processes we engage in to make us feel better about negative events. We might think in advance that if a romantic partner left us, that our hearts would be broken and it would take us years to get over it. But that psychological immune system stos in sooner or later and we begin to have thoughts like, Well, maybe she wasnt the one for me. She did, after all, have these annoying habits. It enables us to recover more quickly than we think from negative outcomes.Have hope and hang in there. Your unconscious mind needs some time toget its emotional white blood cells going, but they will kick in.(To learn how to stop being lazy, clickhere.)Now I know what some people are thinkingWeeks have gone by. Months have gone by. I still feel awful. Im beginning to wonder if Im psychologically immunocompromised. Im not feelingbetter.Yes, some emotional schwierigkeits, justlike some illnesses, dont heal on their own. A bad breakup. Losing a job. The death of a loved one. They can be devastating and difficult to bounce back from.Okay, enough relying on passive approaches. We need emotional antibiotics,stat3) Help your storytellerSo your overconfident storyteller isnt revising your story properly. The hurt is still there. So you need to help them get your newstory right.For four consecutive days, sit down and write about whats bothering you for 20 minutes straight. Your spelling can be atrocious. Thats okay. Nobody is going to read it. Evenyouarent going to read it. The magic is in the writing itself. Delete it or rip it up when youre done.Research byJames Pennebakershows this simple act can help you make sense of tragedy and set your mind at ease. Heres TimIf theres something troubling us, some traumatic event that weve had trouble moving past, take out a piece of paper and just write about our deepest feelings about this event. Typically for 20 minutes, four nights in a row. The reason it can be so beneficial is it forces us to view things from a different perspective. In fact, theres some research by others that suggests that one of the best ways to do this is to write in the third person, as an outside observer would, viewing our situation. That encourages us to take an objective look at our situation and often to come up with a somewhat different interpretation of it that allows us to move on.(For more on how to do the writing exercise that can help you feel better, clickhere.)Alright, you arent believing your storytellers exaggeration of how bad things are and even if your psychological immune system doesnt kick in, you know you can write about the problem to feel better. But how about a longer term fix for the future?If your conscious mind doesnt understandyou very well and thats leading to bad decisions (No skydiving lessons for me), how can you really get to know yourself better so you dont end up in more rough spots?4) Actions speak louder than wordsSo why do other people often know us better than we know ourselves? Because they just look at ouractions.But when youre thinking aboutyou, youre focused on that not-so-accurate inside information only you know about yourself. The answer? Look at yourself the way others do. Just pay attention to your actions, not the overconfident storytellers tales. Heres TimHow can we better understand ourselves? One way is to take a step back and view ourselves like an outside observer to try to see what we actually do. Its also important to try to see ourselves through the eyes of others.Or if youve got brutally honest friends, ask them what youre like. That can be another great source of insight.(To learn the four rituals neuroscience says will make you happy, clickhere.)I need to put a warning label on the above the truth can hurt. Like we talked about, rose-colored glasses can be a good thing.You willfind out the inaccuracies in your personal story that are leading you to make bad decisions but you might also find out that the more accurate story isyoure a real jerk.Ouch. So how do you get accurate info about who you really are and the mistakes you make without ending up clinically depressed?5) Do good, be goodYou think youre an awesome person. You get accurate feedback and it turns out youre not.So now do you need to revise your personal story to say, Im a jerk? Nope.Do good things. Tims research shows that when your behavior changes, often your story changes too. Start doing volunteer work, for instance, and you will start to see yourself as the kind of person who does volunteer work a good person. Heres TimOften, if we want to change who we think we are, one of the best ways to do it is to change our behavior first. If we want to become a little more extroverted, then act that way for a while. Force ourselves to act in an extroverted way. If we want to become better, more pro-social, helpful people, well then go out and do some volunteer work. Often, the story follows the behavior change.(To learn the 6 things the most productive people do every day, clickhere.)Weve learned a lot. Lets round it all upSum upHeres what Tim Wilson says can help you be more resilientYourconscious mind isnt alwaysaccurateA nd this leads to problems.Youwill feel betterBecause you dont know yourself all that well, youre terrible at predicting how youll feel in the future. Your storyteller exaggerates. Remember this.You have a psychological immune systemYou may feel lousynow but, with time, your mind will rewrite your story with a happier ending.Help that storyteller outYou can accelerate emotional recovery by writing about your problems.Actions speak louder than wordsIf you want to get to know yourself better so you can make smartdecisions and avoid future problems, pay attention toyour behavior, not your thoughts. But the truth can hurt.Do good, be goodYour story will follow your actions.Youre a bit of a mystery - even to yourself. Dont worry it keeps things interesting.When times get tough and you dont know how youre going to stay resilient, remember not to trust the doom and gloom coming from that voice in your head. The voice is an overconfident storyteller who exaggerates, not the truth.Your psych ological immune system is slowly getting into gear. And some scribbling can help it along. You can get to know yourself better by watching your behavior. And if you act like the kind of person you want to be, youll start telling yourself an accurateandpositive story about your life.Be careful though if you follow all of this advice you may end up becoming a really good person.Join more than 315,000 readers.Get a free weekly update via emailhere.Related postsNew Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You HappyNew Harvard Research Reveals A Fun Way To Be More SuccessfulHow To Get People To Like You 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior ExpertThis article first appeared at Barking Up the Wrong Tree.Research report 5 powerful rituals that will make you resilientEvery now and then, life punches below the belt. How can you be resilient when times get tough and you feel bad?There are all kinds of strategies for feeling happier and showing grit. But most of them are very conscious and delibera te. And the truth is, most of what we do every dayisnt all that conscious and deliberate.Ever since Freud, weve known that a lot of our behavior is unconscious. If thats the case, shouldnt youleverage yourunconsciousmind to get through the tough times?Only makes sense, right?Now I dont know much about myunconscious mind. (I mean, its unconscious,right?) So I called an expert on the subject.Tim Wilson is a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia andauthor ofStrangers to Ourselves Discovering the Adaptive UnconsciousandRedirect Changing the Stories We Live By.Tim has some, well,mind-blowinginsights about how your brain really works. Youre gonna learn a lot about how that grey matter functions, how to fix it when it cant cope, and youll even find out how to get to know yourself better to avoid future messes, how to stay happy when things suck, and even how to becomea better human being in the process. (Now howsthatfor value?)But I do need to make a disclaimer first Im gon na have to shake your confidence in yourself a bit before we fix it. We need to correct some myths - and some of the truths are a little disturbing. Hang with me. Well get you back to the Shire, Frodo.Alright, forget what you think you know about how your mind works.Youre wrong about a lot of stuff. In fact, youre wrong aboutyouYour conscious mind is an overconfident storytellerOkay, tough love time you dont know yourself as well as you think. Who you think you are, your personality traits, why you do thingsyour perception of yourself can bewayoff.Think your friends would agree with you on what youre really like? Actually, they would agree morewith each otheron your personality than you would agree with any one of them.FromStrangers to OurselvesFirst, the correspondence between peoples ratings of their own personality and other peoples ratings of their personality is not very high. It depends somewhat on the trait for example, people tend to agree with others about how extroverted they are, but on most other personality traits the level of agreement is modest (correlations in the range of .40). Thus, Suzies judgment of how agreeable and conscientious she is correlates only modestly with how agreeable and conscientious her friends think she is. Furthermore, other people agree more among themselves about what another person is like than they agree with that persons own ratings.Some people would immediately push back on this,I know what Im really like I can see me from the inside Nobody else has that informationYes, you have a lot more info about yourself than a stranger does but your conscious mindis kinda like the internet tons of great information and an awful lot ofinaccurateinformation as well.In some areas youd have more insight into yourself, but in others youd beway off.When you average it all out, the information you have about yourself is about as accurate as astrangersread on you.FromStrangers to OurselvesAveraging across several studies, there seems to be no net advantage to having privileged information about ourselves the amount of accuracy obtained by people about the causes of their responses is nearly identical with the amount of accuracy obtained by strangers.I know pretty shocking, isnt it?Why is it so shocking? Because your conscious mind is basicallyan overconfident storyteller.Your conscious mind doesnt have any direct access to everything going on in your unconscious mind.How do you determine what others are like? You watch and guess and make up a story. Well, your conscious mind does the same thing with your unconscious mind. Except your conscious mind is very overconfident about its stories.FromStrangers to OurselvesThe analogy I favor is introspection as a personal narrative, whereby people construct stories about their lives, much as a biographer would. We weave what we can observe (our conscious thoughts, feelings, and memories, our own behavior, the reactions of other people to us) into a story that, with luck, captures at least a part what we cannot observe (our nonconscious personality traits, goals, and feelings).Think about it for a second. You lash out at someone. You say they deserved it. Then you have something to eat. And you feel much better. You realize they werent being awful, you were just cranky because you were hungry. We feel emotions and our conscious mind scrambles to figure out why. And sometimes its wrong.You think the voice in your head is in charge, that it makes every decision. But thats true a lot less often than you think. Ever been so wrapped up in your thoughts while driving that you barely remember the ride home? You didnt crash the car. You made the decisions that allowed you to arrive safely without consciously thinking at all about them. In fact, youre on unconscious autopilot most of the day. But your conscious mind really loves taking credit for everything.Some people are gonna get freaked out at this realizationAHHH I cant trust myself Im not in charge Why is my brain like this?Its okay. Your unconscious mind is still you. But its not the you that is the voice in your head. To be fair, the voice in your head, your conscious mind, has areally reallytough job. Actually, it has two jobs - and theyre often at odds with one anotherJob 1 Provide as accurate a vision of yourself and the world as possible.Job 2 Keep you happy.You can compare this to giving advice to a friend about their bad behavior. You want to be accurate enough that you can help them course correct but you dont want to make them feel like a terrible person. It can be a tricky balancing act.Sometimes youneed to hear,Youre right. Everyone else is wrong.Butother times you need to hear,You are being a jackass and shouldget your act together.Seeing yourself with rose-colored glasses - within limits - is agoodthing. Keeps your self-esteem up and depression away. But too rosy and you start saying things like, Ibet Im a naturalat skydiving I dont need lessonsYour conscious min d doesnt have perfect information about your unconscious mind, so it guesses. On top of that it also needs to try and keep you happy. So at times it comes up with very inaccurate stories about you and the world. Stories you often unquestioningly accept as truth. And thats why sometimes yougive its talesmore credence than your underlying feelings and end up in the kind of job you think you should love - but dont. Or you end up involved with the kind of person you think you should love - but dont.So what does all this have to do with resilience? (In fact, you may be feeling a lotlessresilient now that you realize the voice in your head cant always be trusted.)(To learn the 7-step morning ritual that will keep you happy all day, clickhere.)When life gets hard and youre feeling really bad, knowing how inaccurate your conscious mind can be isactually a big help.1)Its not that bad. Really.Tim and Harvard professor Dan Gilbert have done a lot of research on what they call affective forec asting. Thats a fancy term for predicting how youre going to feel in the future.Turns out, youre terrible at it. Feelingscome from your unconscious mind.But predictions come from that overconfident storyteller. Turns out that all of our storytellers have a tendency to exaggerate.Whats that mean? When times are tough, your storyteller says, WERE GOING TO FEEL BAD FOREVER THE PAIN WILL NEVER ENDDont believe your storyteller. Heres TimWe tend to exaggerate the impact of future events on our happiness and how lasting that impact will be. We tend to think that if something bad happens to us, that well feel terrible forever, or at least for a very long time. The truth is, good things do make us feel good and bad things make us feel bad, but for not nearly as long as we think. Were very resilient creatures who recover as quick as we can from the pitfalls in life.Next time someone tells you youre overreacting to a bad situation, dont get angry with them. Theyre probably right. Your storytel ler has a tendency to be way too creative - and way too confident as well.(To learn how 5 post-it notes can make you happy, confident and successful, clickhere.)Soknowing you havean unreliable narrator in your skull can be agoodthing. The pain isnt as bad as you think But theres still pain. Whats the first line of defense? Actually, its your unconscious mind. Like a superhero, it will come to save the day.How do you send up the Bat Signal to let it know youre in trouble? Heres some more good news you dont have to do anything at all.2) You have a psychological immune systemYouve felt awful before. Your overconfident storyteller said the pain would never end. But it did. As the maximgoes, Time heals all wounds. Actually, thats not true your psychological immune system heals all wounds.Think about your body. You get the flu. But after a few daysyour immune system gets to work and knocks the hell out of the bug that infected you. Tims research shows that your unconscious mind actually does a similarthing when life throws you a curve ball.It will put things in perspective. It willhelp your conscious mind rationalize, and tell a happier story.Heres TimWhen something bad happens to us, we try tomake ourselves feel better. That happens, often, psychologically, behind the scenes. Just like theres a physical immune system that tries to ward off disease and cure us from physical ills, so there are a number of psychological processes we engage in to make us feel better about negative events. We might think in advance that if a romantic partner left us, that our hearts would be broken and it would take us years to get over it. But that psychological immune system kicks in sooner or later and we begin to have thoughts like, Well, maybe she wasnt the one for me. She did, after all, have these annoying habits. It enables us to recover more quickly than we think from negative outcomes.Have hope and hang in there. Your unconscious mind needs some time toget its emotional white blood cells going, but they will kick in.(To learn how to stop being lazy, clickhere.)Now I know what some people are thinkingWeeks have gone by. Months have gone by. I still feel awful. Im beginning to wonder if Im psychologically immunocompromised. Im not feelingbetter.Yes, some emotional problems, justlike some illnesses, dont heal on their own. A bad breakup. Losing a job. The death of a loved one. They can be devastating and difficult to bounce back from.Okay, enough relying on passive approaches. We need emotional antibiotics,stat3) Help your storytellerSo your overconfident storyteller isnt revising your story properly. The hurt is still there. So you need to help them get your newstory right.For four consecutive days, sit down and write about whats bothering you for 20 minutes straight. Your spelling can be atrocious. Thats okay. Nobody is going to read it. Evenyouarent going to read it. The magic is in the writing itself. Delete it or rip it up when youre done.Research byJ ames Pennebakershows this simple act can help you make sense of tragedy and set your mind at ease. Heres TimIf theres something troubling us, some traumatic event that weve had trouble moving past, take out a piece of paper and just write about our deepest feelings about this event. Typically for 20 minutes, four nights in a row. The reason it can be so beneficial is it forces us to view things from a different perspective. In fact, theres some research by others that suggests that one of the best ways to do this is to write in the third person, as an outside observer would, viewing our situation. That encourages us to take an objective look at our situation and often to come up with a somewhat different interpretation of it that allows us to move on.(For more on how to do the writing exercise that can help you feel better, clickhere.)Alright, you arent believing your storytellers exaggeration of how bad things are and even if your psychological immune system doesnt kick in, you kno w you can write about the problem to feel better. But how about a longer term fix for the future?If your conscious mind doesnt understandyou very well and thats leading to bad decisions (No skydiving lessons for me), how can you really get to know yourself better so you dont end up in more rough spots?4) Actions speak louder than wordsSo why do other people often know us better than we know ourselves? Because they just look at ouractions.But when youre thinking aboutyou, youre focused on that not-so-accurate inside information only you know about yourself. The answer? Look at yourself the way others do. Just pay attention to your actions, not the overconfident storytellers tales. Heres TimHow can we better understand ourselves? One way is to take a step back and view ourselves like an outside observer to try to see what we actually do. Its also important to try to see ourselves through the eyes of others.Or if youve got brutally honest friends, ask them what youre like. That can be another great source of insight.(To learn the four rituals neuroscience says will make you happy, clickhere.)I need to put a warning label on the above the truth can hurt. Like we talked about, rose-colored glasses can be a good thing.You willfind out the inaccuracies in your personal story that are leading you to make bad decisions but you might also find out that the more accurate story isyoure a real jerk.Ouch. So how do you get accurate info about who you really are and the mistakes you make without ending up clinically depressed?5) Do good, be goodYou think youre an awesome person. You get accurate feedback and it turns out youre not.So now do you need to revise your personal story to say, Im a jerk? Nope.Do good things. Tims research shows that when your behavior changes, often your story changes too. Start doing volunteer work, for instance, and you will start to see yourself as the kind of person who does volunteer work a good person. Heres TimOften, if we want to change who we think we are, one of the best ways to do it is to change our behavior first. If we want to become a little more extroverted, then act that way for a while. Force ourselves to act in an extroverted way. If we want to become better, more pro-social, helpful people, well then go out and do some volunteer work. Often, the story follows the behavior change.(To learn the 6 things the most productive people do every day, clickhere.)Weve learned a lot. Lets round it all upSum upHeres what Tim Wilson says can help you be more resilientYourconscious mind isnt alwaysaccurateAnd this leads to problems.Youwill feel betterBecause you dont know yourself all that well, youre terrible at predicting how youll feel in the future. Your storyteller exaggerates. Remember this.You have a psychological immune systemYou may feel lousynow but, with time, your mind will rewrite your story with a happier ending.Help that storyteller outYou can accelerate emotional recovery by writing about your problems.Ac tions speak louder than wordsIf you want to get to know yourself better so you can make smartdecisions and avoid future problems, pay attention toyour behavior, not your thoughts. But the truth can hurt.Do good, be goodYour story will follow your actions.Youre a bit of a mystery - even to yourself. Dont worry it keeps things interesting.When times get tough and you dont know how youre going to stay resilient, remember not to trust the doom and gloom coming from that voice in your head. The voice is an overconfident storyteller who exaggerates, not the truth.Your psychological immune system is slowly getting into gear. And some scribbling can help it along. You can get to know yourself better by watching your behavior. And if you act like the kind of person you want to be, youll start telling yourself an accurateandpositive story about your life.Be careful though if you follow all of this advice you may end up becoming a really good person.Join more than 315,000 readers.Get a free w eekly update via emailhere.Related postsNew Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You HappyNew Harvard Research Reveals A Fun Way To Be More SuccessfulHow To Get People To Like You 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior ExpertThis article first appeared at Barking Up the Wrong Tree.

How to Answer Why Are You Leaving Your Current Job

How to Answer Why Are You Leaving Your Current JobHow to Answer Why Are You Leaving Your Current JobDont let that question stymie you. For flexible job seekers in particular,tough job interview questionscan hold special challenges. People looking for remote work, for example, may face additional questions based on concerns about their ability to work independently, or whether theyre self-starters.But look at it this way. The why are you leaving your current job question can be a fantastic opportunity to emphasize your desire for work flexibility. Be prepared to answer this question with confidence to boost your chances of getting hired.Check out these suggestions on how to answer, Why are you leaving your current job?Youre looking for greater work flexibility.The why are you leaving your current job question can open the door for you to talk about any past success working remotely, your technical know-how in operating from your home office, and your steadfast dedication to flexible w ork.Youre looking for new challenges.Use the opportunity to talk about your professional skills and how youre looking for fresh challenges in your career that make the fruchtwein of your abilities. Avoid describing your current job as dead-end, which may come across as bad-mouthing your current employer.Youre seeking to advance your career.Put a long-term spin on your answer by explaining that your overall career goals include achieving a specific job level or title in your profession. Follow up by saying that, in your experience, your current job doesnt allow for the kind of advancement youre seeking.You want to take on more responsibility.Put yourself in a good light by presenting yourself as a highly responsible job candidate whos willing and capable of taking on even more. This forward-thinking approach signals a maturity and level-headedness that could be appealing to a potential employer.You believe the prospective employers job opening is a great fit for your skills and exper ience.Get specific and offer a litany of reasons why youre tailor-made for the job. Heres where you can elaborate on the skills that have gotten you thus far (to the interview stage) in the hiring process. Talk about the specific requirements of the position and how your background makes you a good fit.Youre seeking better work-life balance.Employers are increasingly sensitive to the demands of millennials, working parents, caregivers, and others who want a healthier work-life blend. Being upfront- not pushy- about the importance of work-life integration is a great comeback to questions about why youre leaving your current job.Youre looking to move your career in a different direction.Circle back to your resume and all the accomplishments spotlighted there, and then mention that youre ready for acareer pivotthat will allow you to try new things. Focusing on your achievements can helpYoure looking for an opportunity where you can make a difference.Its OK totalk about frustrations in your current job that make you feel youre unable to make the contributions youd like to make in your career. Talk about the specific impacts the employers organization has made to the profession (or in general), and discuss how youd like to be a part of that effort in the future.You werent looking to change jobs, but came across their posting and think it would be a great fit for you.Make it seem like kismet- that the job opening found you as much as you found it. This is a great answer that has the advantage of portraying you as content enough in your current job, but ready to leap for a great job opportunity when it arises.Thinking of Leaving Your Current Job? Start Your Search for Flexible Work.